I was going to do a post today on indulgences because I went to Starbucks with a girlfriend for a misto and a chat but then I saw this. For those of you who don’t know who Ben Davis is, go here and educate yourself. I’m sure you’ll find him to be quite upfront and honest about his journey all while maintaining a great sense of humour. He’s a blogger I follow and I’m so glad his blog exists because sometimes, I like to know that there are people out there I can relate to. And boy, can I ever relate to Ben and his ongoing stuggles.
As many of you know, I don’t weigh my self very often. I don’t have a scale and most of my weigh ins take place at my friend’s parents’ place, or at my cottage when I get out there. It’s not something that I feel is that important as long as I know that my clothes fit the way I like them to and I can do the things that I like doing with out feeling winded or awkward. Trust me when I say that I am my own harshest critic. And I’m sure that as hurtful and mean these insecure, anonymous posters online are, Ben’s his own harshest critic too.
We all have the haters and the nay-sayers. I’ve had people ask me why I don’t do a half marathon and are surprised when I tell them I have no desire to… “But I thought you wanted to stay slim?” or the people who look down on me when I decide to have a piece of cheesecake at a family function “Careful of that, it’s a slippery slope.” Thanks guys, I didn’t know that one! While I don’t have an interest in running a half or full marathon, I do have an interest in keeping healthy. And I’m sure I’m going to have times where things get a little side ways and to be honest, God help the person who chides me when I put on 5 or even 10 pounds. I’m not going to be happy about it and I’m sure that I won’t be as graceful about it as Ben was.
It’s so easy for these people to sit back and say horrible things. They have no idea how much hard work goes into every pound lost, how much thought goes into every choice made, how much self loathing there is for every failure or set back faced. The next time you think it’s appropriate to say something to someone about their weight, bite your tongue and ask them how they’re doing instead. For all the hard work and praise that people get for their successes, it only takes one comment to cut you down.
Don’t be a hater. No one liked the bully on the playground and no one likes the bully now.